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Both Roy and I have been asked how we carry on when we’ve been knocked flat as many times as we have in the past. It’s how anyone who is TRULY successful does it. It’s called “strength” … and it’s not physical strength … it’s called “MENTAL FORTITUDE”.

“I’ve been a puppet, a pauper, a pirate, a poet, a pawn, and a king. I’ve been up and down and over and out, and I know one thing. Each time I find myself flat on my face, I pick myself up and get back in the race. That’s life. I tell you I can’t deny it. I thought of quittin’, baby, but my heart just ain’t gonna buy it.” Frank Sinatra

Carry on, all …

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 “She gets hungry for dinner at 8.  She loves the theatre, doesn’t come late.  She’d never bother with anyone she’d hate.  That’s why the lady is a tramp …  will not dish the dirt with the rest of those girls.  That’s why this chick is a tramp.  She loves the free cool wind in her hair, life without care.  She’s broke, but it’s oke.  Doesn’t like California, it’s cold and it’s damp.  That’s why the lady is a tramp.  She gets far too hungry, baby, to wait there for dinner at 8.  She adores the theatre, however doesn’t get there late.  She’d never bother with someone she’d hate.  That is why the lady is a tramp.” 

‘THE LADY IS A TRAMP’; Frank Sinatra

 

 

i'm different

 

 

No one has ever understood me, as I’ve said before.  I come from a long line of people who the sheeple of this world don’t understand.  That’s ok with me.  I’m happy with who I am and I do ok in life (generally at least).  I may get knocked down but I always come back up, swinging.  Nothing, and I mean NOTHING, will ever keep me down for long.

In any event, I have always had family and friends that laugh at me because I’m different and I march to my own beat.  That’s ok.  I also know that I fascinate them all with how I carry on.  That’s ok too.  All I care about is if my husband, my children, and my mother/father love me and care for me.  They do.  They may not always understand me … but they love me for who and what I am.

 

 

“… My friend, I’ll say it clear.  I’ll state my case, of which I’m certain.  I’ve lived a life that’s full.  I traveled each and every highway, and more, much more than this, I did it my way!  Regrets?  I’ve had a few but, then again, too few to mention.  I did what I had to do and saw it through without exemption.  I planned each charted course, each careful step along the byway, and more, much more than this, I did it my way.  Yes, there were times, I’m sure you knew, when I bit off more than I could chew, but, through it all, when there was doubt, I ate it up and spit it out.  I faced it all, and I stood tall and did it my way.  I’ve loved.  I’ve laughed and cried.  I’ve had my fill, my share of losing, and now, as tears subside, I find it all so amusing.  To think I did all that, and may I say, not in a shy way!  Oh, no!  Oh, no, not me!  I did it my way.  For what is a man?  What has he got, if not himself, then he has naught, to say the things he truly feels and not the words of one who kneels?  The record shows I took the blows and did it my way.  Yes, it was my way.”

‘MY WAY’

 

 

I think I’ve done ok with my life.  I am a Baby Boomer that was raised a suburban kid.  I went through college.  I got a good degree.  I stopped working to raise my children.  Two out of my three wonderful children had disabilities.  One of them has died.  I’ve been through divorce, major medical issues of my own, financial upheaval, remarriage, relocation, unemployment, and job searches.  However, I have ended up with a pretty darn good job (since I must have a job right now, although I’d sooner not work than have to work, but that’s a different topic altogether) on Capitol Mall in Sacramento, 2 blocks from the State Capitol Building, in a very politically charged arena, and am being promoted quickly up that ladder.  Roy and I have a thriving online marketing business and a mobile disc jockey business.  We live in a terrific rural area, well outside of suburbia and city-life, which is definitely our preference.  Roy has a good new job.  After many years of instability financially, we came out as united as ever, swinging and fighting our way out.  We have, as we both always do, landed on all 4’s.  (Yes, that’s a mixed metaphor and I don’t care.)

 

 

“… & everything’s starting to hum. Still it’s a real good bet the best is yet to come.  The best is yet to come, and, babe, won’t that be fine?  You think you’ve seen the sun but you ain’t seen it shine. Wait till the warm up’s under way … and wait till you see that sun shine day.  You ain’t seen nothin’ yet!  The best is yet to come, and, babe, won’t it be fine?  The best is yet to come!”

‘THE BEST IS YET TO COME’

 

 

Today is my birthday and I love having birthdays … because they are by far better than the alternative of not being here to have one.  I am cut from a different cloth than most people and celebrate my uniqueness … and I’m glad to be married to someone who saw that in me and celebrates the fact that his wife is unique and different too.  As Roy has told me, that’s much of what attracted him to me … and part of why he married me … because he knew he was the same and that way we’d understand each other’s quirkiness.  I continue to do it “my way” and plan on doing it “my way” for some time to come.

Now, admittedly, at times Roy (or those that love me) may get frustrated by the fact that I am not normal, but I can’t and won’t change … and they wouldn’t really want me to do so.  At least someone who truly loves you wouldn’t want you to change.

While I’m not by any definition of the word “young” any longer, my spirit is … and my personality is … and I will live to enjoy my life as long as I can.  Using my love of good wines … my life is like vintage wine, all the way from the brim to the dregs!  I’m still living it to the fullest no matter what happens and no matter how old I am.

 

 

“When I was 17, it was a very good year. … When I was 21, it was a very good year. … When I was 35, it was a very good year.  … but now the days are short, I’m in the autumn of the year, and now I think of my life as vintage wine from fine old kegs, from the brim to the dregs, it pours sweet and clear. It was (and is) a very good year.”  

‘IT WAS A VERY GOOD YEAR’

 

 

So …

… with that …

 

 

WHEN I WAS 58, IT WAS A VERY GOOD YEAR, NO MATTER WHAT ISSUES CAME UP!

 

 

AS I TURN 59 YEARS OLD TODAY, I CAN HONESTLY SAY THIS UPCOMING YEAR WILL MOST DEFINITELY BE A *VERY* GOOD YEAR!!!

 

 

HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO ME!

 

 

birthday

 

 

There may be only a few of us “mavericks” around … but Roy (and my daughter) in particular knows this would fit me better than a lot of people who think they know me realize.

 

 

boots and dirt

Roy figured out that this is the way I am …

… and married me anyway …

… and loves me anyway …

… whether I’m in my cowboy boots …

…or …

… on my mountain bike …

… but …

… I do love my boots!!!

 

 

“Blame it all on my roots, I showed up in boots, and ruined your black tie affair.  The last one to know, the last one to show, I was the last one you thought you’d see there  …   Well, I guess I was wrong.  I just don’t belong, but then, I’ve been there before.  Everything’s all right.  I’ll just say, ‘Good Night!’, and I’ll show myself to the door. Hey, I didn’t mean to cause a big scene  …  Yeah, I’m not big on social graces, think I’ll slip on down to the Oasis, cuz I’ve got friends in low places …”

‘FRIENDS IN LOW PLACES’, Garth Brooks

 

 

While I may have been born into a fairly comfortable life up-front, things haven’t always gone “easy” for me, and I fought my way through.  Besides, as I’ve discussed before … I never fit the mold of “California Girl” or “suburbia” (more like “suburgatory” in my eyes) or “high-class” or “Beverly Hills” or “Hollywood” or however you want to classify any part of me being born in California in the middle of the Baby Boom generation.  I am more in line with people like many of my ancestors  …  7 brothers thrown out of Ireland in the 1600’s and sent to the New World  …  a young German boy who stowed away on a ship in the 1700’s and came to America on his own, never looking back  …  the upper-crust that chose to move to California in the early 1900’s in search of entrepreneurship and a less stifling life  …  a divorced Dust Bowl woman who moved to California with 2 young children  …  Rob Roy  …  or so many more than are listed.

 

 

“I wish they all could be California girls …”

‘CALIFORNIA GIRLS’, The Beach Boys

 

 

I may have been born a suburban Baby Boomer kid raised mostly in California (but not completely … read prior blogs) listening to rock-n-roll music and raised fairly comfortably, but you can’t even classify me by the music I like.  I like Big Band.  I like Classical.  I like Rock.  I like Country.  I like a variety of other things.  I’ll credit my mommy and my daddy for giving me a wide foundation in music.  (I just don’t like rap.)  Don’t try to classify me.  It won’t work.  Probably the closest is this:

 

 

“I am a red, white, and blue blood graduate of Honkytonk U.  That’s right – a red, white, and blue blood graduate of Honkytonk U.” 

Toby Keith

 

 

No … I’m not politically correct.

… never have been … never will be …

 

 

Pay close attention here …

 

 

I NEVER HAVE BEEN POLITICALLY CORRECT!

I NEVER WILL BE POLITICALLY CORRECT!

 

 

 

… getting ready to go ziplining in Kauai with Roy …

 

 

Hey, Roy, it’s time for me to put on my boots!

Let’s go out to dinner tonight and celebrate my birthday in STYLE!

I’ll try not to get dirty or muddy … but I won’t guarantee anything … ever … 

 

 

 

 

 

Carry on, all!

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Bambi.

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 That’s what many people think of when they hear the word, “deer” (unless they’re hunters).

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Deer

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… are not, at least in our not-so-humble opinions, …

Dear

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… particularly out on country roads …

 rural scene

… as they tend to jump out at *very* inopportune times in front of unsuspecting vehicles.

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CRASH!

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This causes much damage to said vehicle and the cost is very …

DEAR

U.S. Coins and Paper Money 

… as in costly … and not as in … 

DEAR.

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It also generally makes said

DEER

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… very …

DEAD.

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Where Roy and I live up in the Sierra foothills, there are a *lot* of wild animals. We’re used to it. For the most part, they don’t bother us.  There are bears, mountain lions, coyotes, jackrabbits, squirrels, raccoons, etc etc etc.  We even have our share of rattlesnakes … but they have never bothered us, just as long as we don’t bother them.  We’re good with that.

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Deer

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… however … are *very* bothersome and tend to like to get in our way.

People in the cities think they’re *cute* (which they can be) and gentle (which they also can be). However, they can cause a lot of very costly damage.  Just ask us … we know.

Roy was on his way to work for some overtime this past Saturday.  We’re good with that.  Since he just started this job and the economy has been sucky (it’s a good word when you don’t want to swear) and finances for us for the past many years have been equally sucky … well … any offered overtime is good.  So he’s merrily headed to work because the overtime money will definitely help us out and doing a nice respectable 50 MPH on a 55 MPH road at approximately 8:20 AM this past Saturday, when, out of nowhere, a deer races down the hill and jumps right in front of Roy’s truck.

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BAM!

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Now … while I feel sorry for the deer … I feel much sorrier for Roy, for the truck, and for our bank account, particularly when our bank account is still reeling from the past several years.  Now … first and foremost in MY mind at least is … Roy is ok … which is good with me because he’d be much more expensive to fix … and impossible for me to replace.

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Anyway, he hit this stupid deer that apparently had a death wish on Saturday morning.  The truck was still drivable so he went to work and figured we’d deal with it this week. So he brought it to the body shop on Tuesday.

Geez.

First they say $700.  While we didn’t like that … it could have been worse.  Ok fine.  We’re ok.

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We’ll deal with it.

We should have known not to celebrate too soon.  Two days later they called back.

“Oh, we found more.  It’s going to be about $1100.”

WHAT?  Ok well that was our first assumption that it’d be about that … and our insurance deductible is high to keep our costs low so we figured … fine … we’ll *still* deal with it and just eat sparsely for the remainder of the month.  We are working on weight loss anyway, aren’t we?

Feet on a Scale 

So today they called again … which made Roy decide to go in and confront them because … well … now it’s up to $1500 … because apparently said deer …

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… wasn’t dear …

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… and cracked the AC unit as well as shoved it into the frame (or something like that anyway).

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We don’t like deer …

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… no matter how cute Bambi is.

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Geez … it would have been nice if at least the overtime amounts had covered the damage to the truck … and not made it so we’ve thought … well geez, it would have been cheaper had Roy just stayed home.  Oh well.  Life goes on.

So anywho …

… as you all know … I love my music … all kinds … and guess what good ol’ Frankie gave us … a great philosophy to follow here:

“I’ve been a puppet, a pauper, a pirate, a poet, a pawn, and a king. I’ve been up and down and over and out, and I know one thing. Each time I find myself flat on my face, I pick myself up and get back in the race. That’s life. I tell you I can’t deny it. I thought of quittin’, baby, but my heart just ain’t gonna buy it.” Frank Sinatra

This is just another one of those basic success principles we were taught as children.  It doesn’t matter HOW many times you get knocked down in life and end up flat on your face.  Get right back up and carry on for your heart’s sake, your peace of mind, and your self-image.  Quitting is not an option. It certainly won’t help you win.  Getting up and carrying on is what will. 

Don’t *ever* be a quitter.

Pick yourself up.

Dust yourself off.

Start all over again.

QUITTING IS NOT AN OPTION.

We’ll figure it out … no matter what.

Remember … “A champion is someone who gets up even when he can’t.”  Curt Goad

Carry on, all … NO MATTER WHAT.

(We still don’t like deer.)

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