Posts Tagged ‘blame’


Roy and I have noticed the habit that many people have adopted, which is excusing boorish behavior when it comes to athletes, actors, politicians, etc – essentially anyone that is in the public eye or when the person in question is a “minority”. Now maybe we aren’t being politically correct here, but, like we have said before, neither Roy nor I will be politically correct when it comes down to “rightness” and “fairness” and “truth”. Unfortunately, sometimes the truth hurts, but the only way someone can correct a wrong is to hear the truth and to take the mental blows. Whether or not someone is a “celebrity” or a “minority” has absolutely nothing to do with anything. We don’t look at color. What we look at is true inner character.

Look at Richard Sherman of the Seattle Seahawks, for example. He is the most recent public figure that exhibited obnoxious behavior for all to witness. Surely he has come through adversity and has made something of himself. For that, we commend him. There are others that have done the same thing. We each have our cross to bear and our demons to fight and our issues to overcome. Admittedly, some have more than others, but we would never judge what another may or may not have endured to get to where they are now. Certainly, I’ve had my share of things, as has Roy. We wouldn’t judge other people as we wouldn’t want them to judge us. Nevertheless, if the vast majority of people acted anywhere close to how Mr. Sherman did on live TV minutes after winning a championship game, shouting into a camera and putting down another player, taking all of the credit for a TEAM effort and diminishing what the Seahawks did together, they would have been told to grow up, to deal with their anger management issues, to be more humble, to learn to take the heat when under pressure. However, when Mr. Sherman chose to do that and was rightfully admonished by the majority of Americans (and the world, for that matter) for acting like a spoiled brat, everyone is now being told to “cut him some slack because he grew up in a poor neighborhood and is black”.

I don’t know about all of you, but I do know how Roy and I feel. We come from what others might call the quintessential white Anglo-Saxon Protestant American Caucasian background. We grew up in the working middle class. If any of our children, family, friends, co-workers, or whoever had done something similar, personally we’d be not only appalled by them but embarrassed for how they tarnished their legacy. If we’d done that when we were younger, there would have been hell to pay with our parents. We both would have been more afraid of our parents than anything someone could do to us on a football field.

Surely fighting through a terrible school system and getting out of the mean streets of Compton, CA, to go to Stanford and then play in the NFL is an accomplishment for Richard Sherman. Actually, it’s a massive accomplishment. Surely doing all sorts of good works in the community is commendable. However, standing in front of a live microphone and a rolling camera and shouting into it nearly demolished everything for which he worked. Excusing it away as “ok” because of where he came from is only perpetuating the lie … the lie that it’s “ok” for those that come from a poor background to act like spoiled brats with no consequences because “life was hard for them growing up”. It’s the “poor, poor, pitiful me” syndrome. In our opinion, if someone wants to play in the big leagues … both literally and figuratively … and be a part of what America has to offer anyone that works for it, then that same person has to learn how to act like a productive and caring member of society and not like a spoiled brat.

Life isn’t fair. I learned that a long time ago. My mother and father taught me that when I was a child. If life were fair, my middle child would still be alive. If life were fair, Roy and I wouldn’t have gone through massive financial set-backs, most of which were not caused by us but by less-than-scrupulous people, companies, and the IRS that tried to take us down. We could have lashed out, yelling life isn’t fair, that we’re better than that, and that everyone else owed us. We didn’t. We got in the trenches and FOUGHT to overcome it. We had some wonderful mentors and team members that helped us navigate through it. We are now doing ok. People now try to tell us that we’re “lucky”, but we aren’t. We worked like pack mules for every last cent we have right now. Richard Sherman has worked for his also. He wasn’t “lucky” either. He had loving, caring, giving parents who worked to help him move forward, but he still had to do the work and get himself out of it. Mr. Sherman did that, just as we have.

However, be that as it may, it doesn’t give him or us a “pass” to be jerks on national and international TV, blowing to bits every single thing that was overcome. Mr. Sherman, like us, worked diligently to get out of a bad situation. He does good things with his life now. That’s a great credit to his work ethic, but bellowing into a camera certainly doesn’t help showcase what has been done or illustrate to others in a similar situation the right way to be in life.

So, in our minds, trying to say that people reacted to what he said and did was because they’re “racist” is nothing short of ludicrous. I don’t care if you’re white, black, pink, blue, or chartreuse with orange polka-dots. If you’re being a jerk … YOU ARE BEING A JERK. Own up to it. Don’t make excuses. Fix the problem. Don’t blame everyone else. Don’t continually pull the “race card”.


If I had done this … or anyone of any other race had done it … people would have reacted the same way … that we’re being boorish, rude, and insensitive. It’s humanity reacting to humanity, not one race or political group reacting to another. This boils down to a group of human beings telling an individual human being that they’re being an obnoxious, shameful, foolish jerk. Period. Like we said above, we’d react the same way to a spouse, our children, our family, and/or our friends. Oh, hell, our children would be more afraid of our reaction than what any opponent on a football field could do or say to them. That’s pretty true of most any of our family and friends. We hold ourselves to a very high standard. So should Mr. Sherman. Boorish behavior shouldn’t be excused away. Boorish behavior is simply BOORISH BEHAVIOR, no matter where you grew up or what you’ve been through in life. Continually pulling that “race card” is childish … plain, flat, and simple.


Therefore, we would like to address the following specifically to Mr. Sherman, although others that like to blame anyone but themselves for things that they themselves do can take to heart for their own individual circumstances what we say.

“Yes, Mr. Sherman, you worked long and hard to get out of the streets of Compton and to better your life as well as that of your family. You’ve accomplished a lot. Nevertheless, you were being a rude, insensitive, boorish, self-centered loud-mouth acting like a spoiled brat when you bellowed into Erin Andrews’ microphone and looked into Fox Network’s TV camera. Admit it. Don’t make excuses. Act like an adult and shoulder the responsibility. Then, after doing so, work on fixing whatever the issue within yourself is so it doesn’t happen again, so that people can see the character you truly wish to portray and not the image you have worked so hard to overcome.”

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I lived in Illinois and the suburbs of Chicago many years ago, working down in “The Loop”.  I met some wonderful people there but the politics of the area are corrupt to the core.  I was quite glad to move out of there when I did.

 Consider the following:

 Body count: In the last six months, 292 people have been killed (murdered) in Chicago, compared to 221 killed in Iraq, and Chicago has one of the strictest gun laws in the entire U.S.!?!?!?!?!

Senator: Dick Durbin

House Representative: Jesse Jackson, Jr.

Governor: Pat Quinn

House leader: Mike Madigan

Atty. Gen.: Lisa Madigan (daughter of Mike) – good ol’ crony-ism

Mayor: Rahm Emanuel (now referred to as “The Murder Mayor”)

The Chicago school system is rated one of the worst in the country.

The State pension fund is $78 billion in debt (the worst in the country).

Chicago’s & Cook County’s sales tax is 10.25% (the highest in the country).

George Ryan is no longer governor.  He is in the Big House.

Of course, he was replaced by Rob Blagojevich who is … that’s right, ladies & gentlemen, boys & girls … also in the Big House.

Representative Jesse Jackson, Jr. resigned a couple of weeks ago … because he is fighting being sent to … that’s right again … the Big House!

Welcome to the Land of Lincoln, where governors and politicians make the license plates!!!

The leadership in Illinois is all Democrat (just like in Detroit, another terrible blight of a city).

Of course, they’re all blaming each other.

They can’t blame the Tea Party, the Conservatives, or the Republicans … because …








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I was always told that if there was a problem facing me to take ownership and fix it.

Blaming someone else for your challenges and problems is akin to failure.

… uhhhh …

… BO …

… Congress …

Are you listening?

Do you even hear how much you all throw blame?

Knock it off.

Take ownership.

Fix what you can.

The country will be a better place if *EVERYONE* in it does that.


I fixed it.





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